Forgive and Forget
“I’ll forgive, but I won’t forget”
How many of us have said, or heard someone say this? I know I used to say it, and I meant it! I thought I was right and justified in the way I felt. I thought that by not forgetting, it somehow protected me from being hurt or offended again. Wrong. It only left bitterness in my heart and caused me to see people through their wrongdoings and not through the eyes of God. Is “not forgetting” only disguised unforgiveness? It was in my case. If we call ourselves Christians and are trying our best to model Christ, the greatest example, we have to move the way Jesus moved. Jesus forgave a lot. So should we.
Let me just say, I don’t have forgiveness down pat, I’m still learning and growing. However, when I first started trying to view and do forgiveness God’s way, I had two questions. Why? and How? Let’s start with why first.
- God said so.- I know this is not what we want to hear. God is our heavenly Father. We are protected through obedience. “Even if that person wrongs you seven times a day and each time turns again and asks forgiveness, you must forgive.” Luke 17:4 NLT We must forgive them, for our own sanity!
- God doesn’t forgive us if we don’t forgive each other. – #thatpart“If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you. But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins.” Matthew 6:14-15 NLT I don’t’ know about you, but I NEED forgiveness. By holding someone hostage in unforgiveness, we’re holding up our blessings. And ain’t nobody got time for that!
- God forgave us!- “Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others.” Colossians 3:13 NLT
Now I’m sure there are many more reasons as to why we should forgive, but these are the reasons that helped me understand the importance. We really could have closed this post with the first reason. Am I right? Think about this, is it really worth it? What does unforgiveness really do to the person that wronged you? Not a thing. It only festers in our hearts and minds and makes us bitter, and bitter is never on trend or cute.
How do we forgive?
- Fully accepting and receiving God’s forgiveness.- I believe, and I could be wrong, that if we truly and fully accepted what Jesus did for us on the cross, it would be hard not to forgive. Jesus stood in the gap and took a horrible punishment that WE deserved just so we could be in right standing with God. Just so when God looked at us he wouldn’t see all the awful things and sins that we have done, but that he would look upon us with mercy because he see’s us through Jesus! Come on now. Is that not beautiful? The bible says, “He has removed our sins as far from us as the east is from the west.” Psalms 103:12 NLT It’s easier to forgive when we think about how much we’ve been forgiven.
- Asking God to give us a clean heart and to renew a right spirit in us- “Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me.” Psalms 51:10 KJV I’m not saying forgiving in easy. Sometimes is extremely hard. Especially when we think the person doesn’t deserve it but did we deserve to be forgiven? We need God’s help with forgiveness. Some situations are more complicated than others, but the word of God is a blanket for all. We need God to clean us up so we can get it right!
- Continually.- ‘At that point, Peter got up the nerve to ask, “Master, how many times do I forgive a brother or sister who hurts me? Seven?” Jesus replied, “Seven! Hardly. Try seventy times seven.’ Matthew 18:21-22 MSG Yes, we forgive every time we are offended. We have to keep forgiving until we are healed and whole.
Lord thank you for your sacrifice. Thank you for sending your only son Jesus, to die a brutal death because of your undying love for us. Thank you for forgiving us! Help us to never forget your continual forgiveness to us. Help us to extend the same mercy you give to us to others. Help us, Jesus. We need you now. Clean our hearts and renew our spirits. Show us the benefits of forgiveness in ways that you know will speak to us. Thank you for the most wonderful example, Jesus Christ. We love you and we thank you! In Jesus name, we pray, Amen!
I love y’all. Pray for me, as I pray for you!
Annette D ❤