The Unplugged Series: Confessions of a Perfectionist.
Being a perfectionist is so exhausting and very limiting, and I am tired! It’s a battle of the mind and heart. I work and work and work to be the best at everything, until I’ve never really completing anything at all. It’s the anxiety that comes with wanting to be accepted, for me, that is the fuel behind it. I want to be the best at everything, which isn’t totally the wrong way to be. It becomes a problem when I try to do everything out of my own will power without acknowledging Christ.
I was talking with one of my co-workers one day on this very topic. She’s an older yet vibrant woman who shared her years of struggling with being a perfectionist too. She began telling me how there is nothing wrong with wanting to do great things and be great at them, however, “We will never be perfect”, she said. She went on to say that the sacrifice Jesus made on the cross would be in vain. She was right. I remember the bible talking about God’s strength being made perfect in our weaknesses.
She then says to me, “Strive for excellence, not perfection.” What! lol That was ingenious to me. She basically told me there is nothing wrong with wanting to go the extra mile and be intentional about what you’re doing, that shows the God in you! But missing the mark repeatedly breeds excellence because you are continually tweaking your approach and perspective until you have something you can be proud of. In striving for excellence there is great joy and comfort in knowing that we will never be perfect. But with God all things are possible.
Along with that the word ‘balance’ has been ringing in my spirit, for a few weeks now. It wasn’t until I sat down to construct this blog that I thought, “Maybe God is trying to tell me, I need some balance in my life.” I looked up what the word balance meant and it made me chuckle. According to Google.com balance means, “an even distribution of weight enabling someone or something to remain upright and steady.” I don’t know about you, but I need some upright and steady in my life! lol Seriously though! Have you ever felt like you didn’t know whether you were coming or going? Like a chicken with its head cut off? I feel like that’s what being a perfectionist and lacking balance has done to me.
For example, Both my husband and I work long and crazy hours! We know this isn’t our destiny, but for right now it is what it is. It would absolutely be to our benefit to make more time for ourselves individually AND together. You need both on the balance beam to remain upright. You know what I mean? Work and play. I also believe the greatest way to add more weight to your lacking side of the scale is to spend more time with Jesus! That alone can make you upright and steady! This puts my in the mind of Alexis Spight’s song “Drop That”Check it out here!. In the song she’s talking about leaving stuff behind that weighs her down and picking up the joy of the Lord. The first few lines she talked about how she made a list of everything that was weighing her down and trading it for more of Jesus. I think that is such an awesome idea. I challenge you to make a list, being honest with yourself about some things that weigh you down and drop them for something more fulfilling. This can be anything positive. More of God of course, but what about less TV and more time outside or reading. Or less sweets, and more veggies. Whatever floats your boat literally and keeps it from sinking. I would love to hear some of them in the comments and I’ll share some of mine there as well!
Well…that’s all I have for now, but I will leave you with this verse below
Be encouraged! Balance is goooood. I love you all!