Be Kind to Yourself


Hi guys! I’m so happy to be posting another blog today! Not just because I love to write, but because I was able to hear God today! I was just venting to my husband that I felt that I wasn’t able to hear God or sense God lately in a way that inspired me to write anything. I of course write in my personal journal almost everyday but, when it comes to encouraging others with my writing, I don’t like to write or move without God’s approval. There is no way, in my own human nature that I know what will encourage each of you, so I wait on God! Because He knows what you need, not me, so I like to say what he wants to say! I’ve learned for me, it’s the best way! But I honestly feel like I haven’t been able to write or get in my zone because like many of us, I am so hard on myself. I am my worst critic. I have loads of ideas that run through my head daily, but most times I don’t act on them because I beat myself up. I tell myself, “You haven’t had quiet time with God in a week, how can you encourage someone?” Or “How can you encourage someone when you tear yourself down constantly?” So the whole purpose of this blog today is to encourage us and myself to be more kind to ourselves! If we don’t lift ourselves up, who will?

We often talk about being kind to others and being a light to others that we neglect ourselves. It’s harder to be effectively kind and loving to others, when you don’t even show that same affection to yourself. Being kind to ourselves is important in every area. Of course it all starts in our minds and what we allow ourselves to think about ourselves. Are you constantly talking down on yourself? Do you call yourself fat or ugly? Do you tell yourself you can’t accomplish something because you think you don’t have the means? Even if you aren’t literally thinking those things about yourself and you feel that the enemy is placing negative thoughts in your head, are you agreeing with those negative statements? It’s the same thing. The bible says in Colossians 3:2, “Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things.” That means we have to set our minds on what the word of God says about us. We have to see ourselves through the eyes of our Savior. The one who created us and loves, fat or skinny! Don’t be swayed by the mind of the earth. Set your mind of things above! It’s going to take discipline but it works!

Then in gets down to our relationships and friendships as well! Who are you allowing to remain in your space that needs to go? Are we being kind to ourselves with the people in our midst? I’m learning that sometimes, you have to let folks go! You have to. And I honestly thought I would never get to that point, because I’m the type of person that sees the best in everybody! I will love you, right, wrong, or indifferent. But I had to ask myself, “At what point will you stop allowing yourself to be uncomfortable to satisfy the comfort level of others?” You have to decide for yourself that, I love myself more than this toxic, life sucking situation! Be bold enough, to be kind to yourself! Let me be clear, though. God absolutely called us to love each other and not to judge each other, but i’m sorry, love shouldn’t hurt! Period! I don’t know what this warped idea of love came from, but love is not confusion, love doesn’t put you in harms way,  love is not violent or abusive, love is not shady. The bible says God is love! Does the love we receive or give out, even to ourselves, reflect God? What does that look like? 1 Corinthians 13 says, “Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.” We must monitor our relationships in order to take better care of ourselves!

We also have to be kind to ourselves by watching how we treat our bodies! Spiritual health is amazing, but how is your physical health? How can we expect to be the best vessels for God if we’re killing ourselves? Literally. In the last 3 months, I’ve taken it upon myself to get my health in order. I don’t get in right everyday, but I make a serious effort! I’m in the gym at least 3 times a week if not more, and I’ve started to watch what I eat. I always tell myself, I NEVER want my health to be the reason why I can’t do something God asked me to do! I want to be mentally and physically ready for whatever and wherever He is taking me! Yes, God is a healer, but faith is not drinking a six pack of soda in a day and saying God heal me…that’s insanity. We have to do our part as well! Don’t get it twisted now, I love me a good ole Rocky Road ice cream cone, but everything in moderation! Are you eating your vegetables? Are your drinking water? Are you staying active? You don’t have to be a gym buff, but get outside, take a walk, take the stairs…baby steps! Don’t allow the enemy to tell you that eating healthy and living healthy is expensive or time consuming either, because it doesn’t have to be! Buy frozen veggies, eat more lean meats like baked chicken, or fish, eat an apple, or banana! Small things! Make better choices and your appetite will follow! The bible says, Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.” 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 These are not our bodies! We have to take care of what God loaned us while we are here! 

Last thing, and this is a super struggle for me! Be present and enjoy life! Be in the moment! I know most times, I can’t even fully immerse myself in one activity because i’m planning my next move. I’m always thinking about what I have to do next, that sometimes I lay down at night, and wonder what just happened? Slow down! Take time to acknowledge how beautiful the weather is outside or the birds flying in the air! God didn’t create us to exist, He created us to live and thrive! John 10:10 says,  The enemy came to destroy, but Jesus came so we can have life, and have it ABUNDANTLY! Sometimes my husband and I, do “no phone zone” dates, where we don’t look at our phones while we are together! We enjoy each other’s company, and talk, and laugh! Enjoy those around you! Also, allow yourself to unwind at the end of the day if you can, don’t fall asleep looking at your phone or TV. Put it away right before bed and relax your mind. Say a little prayer or drink some tea and read a book! Allow your mind to stop racing so you can get restful and rejuvenating sleep!

I shared this because I want us to thrive! I want us to be encouraged to take better care of ourselves! It’s only one you, living this one life, take advantage where you can! I pray this blessed and inspired you, I know I’m inspired! I love y’all! Be sure to comment below, I love chatting with you all! Be blessed!

Annette D!


12 Comments Add yours

  1. Shirlene finley says:

    I really enjoyed reading this, a lots of it reflected on me. Taking care of myself, and eating right. Being mindful of the people in our lives. Beautiful writing.


    1. Annette D. says:

      Yay! Thanks so much! I really appreciate it! Yes we have to take care of ourselves!!


  2. Nancy Kruschwitz says:

    That is beautiful.


    1. Annette D. says:

      Oh thank you Ms. K! Thanks for reading!


  3. Nicco says:

    Nette babe ive always got these but i never really looked at them this makes me rethink alot thats i am doing please keep sending them to me it got my mind kind of open and needed to think


    1. Annette D. says:

      Okay baby will do! I’m glad you like it!


  4. Nicco says:

    thank u


    1. Annette D. says:

      Sure love you. Call me if you can tomorrow. I get off at 4 and I’m off Thursday


  5. Nicco says:

    ok i will try i dont have a phone rn but i will try


  6. Janita Griffin-Coleman says:

    Nicco shared this with me yesterday. He thought I would like your blog. I don’t just like it, I love it. Continue to keep allowing God to use you to spread His glorious light. You are an encouraging vessel of hope and truth. Thank you for your transparency and “realness.”


    1. Annette D. says:

      Oh wow! Thank you so much! Your words really have touched me! I appreciate it!


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